Life could be so unfair at times,  situations knot bow tie. A very close friend of mine heart was smash on rock by a lady. He was lost in his world, getting over the depression was really complicated fpr him to handle, it got worsen. Depression that turn in resentment. Loneliness paves in and his world was falling apart. I couldn't just stare  blankly watching him break down, i knew exactly how he felt so, i advice him to put his heart upon his and strong.

Loner entertain  thoughts, uncontrollable overwhelming kind of but dwelling there and giving the feeling total control over you cage you more. Have you ever imagined a life with a satisfied intimacy?  . I mean a happy life with no interference of suicidal feelings of loneliness. You might think it's impossible but my dear it's.

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When is someone said to Lonely and What cause it?

Everyone catches the feeling, it's  normal.Someone might  decides to separate his/her self for a purpose(solitude) but in a situation they become depressed due to being alone in that case the person is said be lonely.
Loneliness is triggered by numerous conditions like breakup, Lost of love One, especially spouse, Sudden change off environment-migration from one country or another for work.

Loneliness is said to have  genetic connection and those with Low self-esteem tend to become lonely because they lack confidence and also  think that they are  worthless.

It be-gets more intense loneliness,studies shows that its has health effect. A University of Chicago social psychologist John Cacioppo, studied the biological effects and came up with much bad effect that  loner  are at risk of endangering their lives.

• It's tied to hardening of the arteries (which leads to high blood pressure),
• inflammation in the body, and even problems with learning and memory.
• Even fruit flies that are isolated have worse health and die sooner than those that interact with others, showing that social engagement may be hard-wired, Cacioppo said.

Other effect  includes Depression  suicide,Cardiovascular disease,stroke,Increased stress levels ,Decreased memory  learning,Antisocial behaviour.Poor decision-making ,Alcoholism and drug abuse, The progression of Alzheimer's disease and Altered brain function.
Like Smoking  It doesn't only effect an individual only but those around them making its contagious.

How to Stop Feeling  Lonely ?.

How can a loner get over the sensation of feeling like his been lock
out of heaven gate. ?

1.Firstly you figure out the cause.
 Is it breaks up depression that triggered the feeling?.You can't conquer the unknown unless you satisfy your intimate desires.

2.Realization and acceptance of your loneliness as normal. Don't blame the universe,yourself or feel discouraged instead try to break free from it instead. Maybe you lost someone dear to you, accept the fact that his/she is gone for time indefinite. Rather than beating your brain out or crying a river just pick up every piece of you and move on.

3.Speak to your feelings-avoid shying away. Make decisions to face your fear. The problem we human have is that of standing up for something, speaking straight to our fear in hard  times. The fear of looking straight in the mirror in critical conditions.
Replace that's isolated mentality with a sociality kind of. If not the depression  won't seize despite being  surrounded crowd.

4.Stop Isolating yourself.-Get Off your comfort zone. Don't expect change, make it happen . Reach-out to  others in your world, find someone who cherishes you. Life is incomplete without the availability of close associate. Reaching out for others people, reunion with old
friends, fixed broken communication with friends by calling. Don't rely on Facebook chatting because it won't help matters but double them when you log out.


5. Work on Positive Thinking. Loneliness comes along with anxiety which is predisposed to Negative thinking. Be optimistic that's you'll be better soon. Though you may get a roll-over of negative thoughts but striving for the bright side will do more help in shaping your success
of loneliness.

Depression from loneliness can be overwhelming,annoying and suicidal. Making your feel worthless, but its not the end of the world,your mind is only lying to you. Stand up and make a decision. Human lack decision making capability . Over procrastinating and fear of what might happen next trouble us a lot so, we tend to manage bad situations.

Make the necessary lifestyle change, they say to get over a habit you must look for a substitute. Satisfied hungry needs and occupy vacuums.You can also do this by identifying the root cause and attacking smartly .And when it's getting tougher you fight to the end.

Sexual thoughts and desires are pretty normal. We as human, are prone to have the feelings resulting from the urge to gratify sexual impulses. Nature made it for the consumption of matured minds. Religiously it's abnormal until you're matured enough(i.e married ). Hence, the fruit and desire for it has been termed forbidden, enslaving people with myths, that sexual thought is a sin.
Sexual thought can be overwhelming when it's over emphasized, making it uneasy to pay attention. However, certain factors triggers sexual thought. These factors include:‎

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Over thinking of sex every time can affect you in a long run: thinking of what's underneath the skirts when a girl passes by can trigger sexual thought.This could be in d area of music,movies, a promiscuous girl dress code or that hot co worker.

Thinking of how to control yourself from sexual urge?, you can try the following:

1. Figure Out What Trigger The Thoughts

• Seek medical attention to know if it's nymphomania- a mental disorder marked by compulsive sexual behaviour.

2.Avoid sexual stimulation: this can be done by:

•  Avoid Surfing website that has link with pornography. They can increase the libido.
•  Don't read playboy magazine or any explicit form of writings.
•  Delete erotic videos from your smartphone, laptops.
•  Avoid discussion (dirty talking) which might trigger your desire.

3.Change your urge to creative energy:

sexual Urge has psychological link, just making up your mind to change or developing the guilty conscience of not being good enough won't do any help. Accept it a normal hormonal reactions. Instead of worrying translate your urge into creative energy.
 This can be:

• Get a self improvement or a motivational books and give It all your attention. The Bible could be a source of inspiration.
• Get off your comfort zone. At times sexual thought triggers when you're alone in an isolated place reminiscing draft days event or thinking and looking Nicki Minaj 's ass picture, day dreaming what she's got under.

4,Get Busy. An adage says "an idle mind is the devils work shop." Instead of doing nothing, engage yourself in busy schedules.

• Make better use of the time you spend with sexual thought invests it into unleashing the creative potential in you.
• keep your self with music, write an article, exercise.
• Fill idle time with plans, visit a friend, watch football.

5. Talk to Someone.
Most people keep everything to their self because it's terrifying telling a friend, you've got problems with your sexual life. "Problem shared is a problem solved " Talk to God in prayers, his promised to answer whenever we call upon his name in hard times.

Don't let your sexual thought push you to act abnormal, you own the key to your self. Consistent Self help and applications of techniques will make progress and make you a better person.
Note this:Having sexual urge is never a sin. It's normal but how you go about it counts.

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How to Think Positively

You know the effect and damage it has coursed you, worry less. It's life, it unfair and you bound to miss a few turns, negative thoughts or whatever you call it can and will be conquered
If you have made up your mind to conquer Negative thought click HERE start and get the Solution.

Joan Rivers, who passed away at the age of 81 Thursday, made us laugh for decades, below are some of her words.

1.Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery, today is God's gift, that's why we call it the present.


2.I enjoy life when things are happening. I don't care if it's good things or bad things. That means you're alive. Things are happening.

3.I've had so much plastic surgery, when I die they will donate my body to Tupperware.


4.I've learned from my dealings with Johnny Carson that no matter what kind of friendship you think you have with people you're working with, when the chips are down, it's all about business.

5.Don't tell your kids you had an easy birth or they won't respect you. For years I used to wake up my daughter and say, 'Melissa you ripped me to shreds. Now go back to sleep.'.
Life is very tough. If you don't laugh, it's tough.

6.I've learned from doing my own show with Fox that people are not your partners if they're signing the checks. Whoever signs your paycheck is the boss - no matter what they tell you.
A man can sleep around, no questions asked, but if a woman makes nineteen or twenty mistakes she's a tramp.

7.My obstetrician was so dumb that when I gave birth he forgot to cut the cord. For a year that kid followed me everywhere. It was like having a dog on a leash.


8.I've learned you don't always listen to your agents and managers. Sometimes they know nothing.

9.I didn't want to do 'Fashion Police' because I thought, 'This is stupid, this is beneath me, who wants to talk about fashion?' It has taken off. We are the number one show in England on E! Who knew?

10.Acting is my true love. I would like to have been a serious actor, and I plan to in the next life. I'm gonna be Meryl Streep Rivers.

11.Comediennes are the lucky ones, because if you're funny, you can be 125 years old and they will still accept you.

12.Every comedian is furious. Age makes me angry. I'm unhappy at not being able to open packages anymore.

13. I'm angry that libraries have gone.

14.I hate children on planes. I'm very shallow, so they tend to be little things. To be honest, I think I was probably angry the day I was born, you know, about diapers or something.

It's unimaginable strange how  a positive minded somebody hangs around the clock with people who sees things from the negative angle. A negative someone interupts positives communication with a total different viewpoint which may result in arguments and at the end nothing responsive, productive is gained. They can be annoying, they are bad influence and they need to get rid off to graduate on to the next living of life.

The lifestyle stagnates not only but those he keeps company  with. I have once found myself in mist of people like that and i can tell its was an experience no one should encounter.

Dealing With Negative People is like  solving a complicated chemical equation. It's done tactically and carefully and by using the appropriate formula. They can be your family members, friends,your roommate and i such case it's might seems like you lost him respect if you just breakout and neglect them.

1. Ignore Any Sort Of Argument.
One of the mistakes i made was trying to behave like light in between two dark. Arguing with them thinking am enlightening or defending the positive. I came to realize that it was like setting fire to the rain. A negative human is never out of viewpoint to back up his acclaimed rights.  Ignoring the argument sets the level of your maturing in dealings on the high.




2.Avoid Negative People.
 This set of guys are bad influence. They have what it takes to make any weak faithed minded individual a believer. They know how to paint a abstract picture and bring it into reality. Lights and darkness have nothing in common right? Avoid Negative People at all cost. Minimize the hours you spend with them, time is too precious  be wasted.

3.Don't Contribute in such Conversation.
Zero contribution, no matter how irresistible and tempting it might be. When its get out of hand smile and leave.

4.Love Them. Don't hate them but their attitude. well they kinda boring to you but i believe there is story behind everything. Someone made them to choose that lifestyle, it can be stress from work, the hard side of life. Religious misunderstanding.  Think of the best way to help them out but don't try to do number 5.

Don't Try to Change Them.
No amount of preaching can change a man, an encounter with the truth of everything and personal decisions is what is needed.  Let him know what this dark thoughts is doing to him and if he still insist. Know your limit and ignore them.

The definition of true happiness to me is when you lived a life worth living, a life that some else appreciates, a beneficiary life but not to your glory but for the wellbeing and joy to those in your mediate surrounding. Happiness is a choice  and a battle of the fittest.  A journey which money can't buy or pay for it's tickets.  A height attain upon sacrifices and consistency. True happiness can be discover in places no one thought it could. Many believes that materialism can buy but in times it turnout temporary. I used to think getting rich  ,  high and dancing alone is the true definition of happiness but along the way i came to understand that 7 things can unlock lifes best things.

1.Be Kind Hearted: The gateway to that everlasting smiles is cultivating that mind of putting the well being of a stranger first. How does it feel when someone you shows kindness with tender  love. ?The joys of being the Jesus of the new age, being kind, helping someone  to see through, being a role model to look up to. There is no true joy than seeing someone fulfilled on the path you showed them. It just don't end but continuously wherever needs arises. The greater your passion the higher the degree of your happiness. The true meaning of life is to plant trees, under whose shade you do not expect to sit. ~Nelson Henderson.

2.Share Your Knowledge: When you let your own thoughts have total control over you. The chance of unlocking that passion for others might be hindered. You only go places when your thoughts is shared to help improve others.  Sometimes i wonder how stagnant and void the world would have been if everyone keeps his knowledge without passing them to the young and hunger generation. You don't have to be a professional, experiences is all that matters.  This era technology has made it easier, you can sit at the comfort of your home and show the world what you've got. And being passionate keeps the flow going and the more exposed it's gets and accepted the more joyous you're.

3.Respect Others Tradition and Idea:  Everyone wants to be respected, noticed and be among the best. The same measure measure you gives is the same you'll be given. This days differs in religions and believes and numerous ideas from different people. Makes it's complicated to some people to maintain the balance between their own and showing respect to others tradition, ideas .  Peace and tranquillity can be  met and a peaceful and a stable world with no religious hatred traits is a happy place to live in.

4.Know Your Limit:  Nothing under the sun is unlimited. Even Happiness, it might sound strange.  One can only go beyond when he seeks happiness from things that last for a while, temporary things like material things. When you based your happiness on people  when they're no longer there you becomes a loser with nothing but regrets. Knowing your limit is all about doing what makes you happy and hanging there. And avoiding anything thing that will shift the balance.

5.Practice ;what you Preach. The most cause of so many unhappy ending especially in relationships is building the foundations on lies and falsehood. This days everyone is talking and no one is listening. One mistake made can turn against you tomorrow. Never  hurt the hands that fed you and don't let the bridges you crossed be the one you burn. Practice what you preach is doing what's right, to set am example. You can't tell someone to quit smoking when you're a chain smokers. Same applies to unlocking that closed doors that welcomes happiness.

6.Work for the Joy of It: One the secrets of success apart of from getting started is loving what you're doing. Being consistent no matter what. I believe nothing can survive a test of time if the individuals involves don't love what they do. Doing things for the joy of it increases the passion. Only those after the gain gives up in a long run.

7.Look Ahead and Help Others to Look Ahead: Don't settle down halfway.  There is so much to see, the  future holds too much. The present is just a piece. See yourself owning all you ever wanted and living a fulfilled and a  happy life. Don't get higher and party alone build  network,confidence,power and respect, be kind, gives the little you have, don't do what you know nothing about. Do it because it brings joy to you soul. The joy of everything is seeing those you gave umbrella owning a pair.

Have you ever ponder what the whole inhabitant of this sphere are after?. Despite the  massive wants, the years of hard work in order to achieve this dreams. The big dreams, even those with empty jeans, the rich all have one thing in common  which is sipping from this old unchangeable holy grail.
As of recent , through my encounter with several set of people i came to understand that there is certain things everyone, everywhere have in common. No matter how big, riches and poor they all share few wants gaol in common.

1.Making More Money: Everyone needs money it's the answer to nearly everything. Everybody needs it's to aids life. It major function is for exchange. And we all need it not as a tool to get happiness but to ease and makes life good.  The poor wants to richer and the rich desires to be richer.

2. Visualizing All The Material Things  you never had: While you were a kid , certain thing wished you had where out of reach. It might be flashy cars, a nice crib, girls whatever.The moment you grow the very first thing you'll chase if getting those thing your mama couldn't get to you. The poor after all they lacked while the rich will focus on how to get all the money power in the world.

3. Getting Married:  Every eight out of ten people dream of getting married soon after they make money. No one desires to end up living alone they rather get into relationship with  the mind to end up in marriage. The ones that don't buy the idea are neither religious base or personal decision to remain single. The rich and poor man's fantasy is having a wife at home.

4.Living Happily All day: The joy of having something is keeping it and watching it grow up to improve oneself. Many people need money, material things, and wife so they can have peace and live happily. While others seek it. No one like being sad all the time.

4.Living Long/better life:  Life is one the precious gift ever given to anyone that's lucky to have it. You live doesn't mean you're alive that's why everyone is after a better one. And enjoying it for a longtime. Nobody want's to die but live long.

5.Making Heaven: Religions has made it to clear to us that after one dies a force leaves him to somewhere. Some religion teach it goes to Heaven a place for eternal enjoyment or hell to suffer for eternity. It all depend which one you put your believe in but one thing they all have in common is that idea of Heaven and everyone wants to live forever.

6. Living the Dream:  We all had dreams that on day we'll be whatever we ever wanted. A Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer...Chased it with the whole of our strength and time. The most is joyous of all is living that dream one day.

7. Having Kids: Kids are blessing and no one despise blessings. Every young person dreams of being parents. And also bringing up to be better people and useful.

Life circles around this few things according to my observations. What else does human being need apart from the above. No matter how far you attain you must bow to one or all of them.

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Be born  again as you wake, what you do today matters most'

A neighbor of mine bought new cloths months ago, expecting to put them the next sunday, she never had the opportunity to wear them the next day. She lost her life that night. Do you procrastinate or do let todays duty for tomorrow?. All you have is now not tomorrow.

You concern, you future and everything is today, can you tell if tomorrow exist?. Something you no control over can change or cease to exist any moment, unexpectedly. Get the most out of today and make it exist.

Don't Procrastinate.The more you wait for something miraculous to happen, the farther time flies. Are you with the believe that God's time is the best?, you have to grow up and realize that God's time will never from the sky or split out from heaven's.  God's time is today and it's the best only if you discover what work for you best and improve on them, gather the most important particle to help materialize them.


Make the most of yourself

Get busy, pick up something you have passion for, let the enthusiastic for it runs through you. Pick a career and do your best to be the best at it. In this life, things works the way you programme them to work, any mistake you make now can affect your entire life.  Improve yourself,pick up something that will never leave you. A local proverb says'' What you eat is all you'll die with''.

Lets take for instance you have a pair of shoes and you also know how to make them, and suddenly it got stolen, you'll be let empty but the knowledge of making them will forever be in you.

'' Make the most of yourself.......for that is all there for you.''_ Ralph Waldo Emerson. 

 Every Morning you wake to same world but to different occurrence and lifestyles, Life's changes and it's inevitable. Be worry free. They're like storm they comes and go.  Everyone wants a better life.Be open to change but don't let go you're worth. And if it don't fit you change it and it you  change yourself(attitudes).

Love yourself. What you do, achieve all you ever wanted.  Help others get through life. Smile, be happy, be friendly, eat good, exercise, Stop accepting things you cannot change, learn how to manage time effectively .Tommorrow may never come what you do today matter most.

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Poet, activist, memoirist, actress, and professor — Maya Angelou, one of the great American voices of the past century, has died at age 86.Angelou became a household name in 1993, when she delivered an inaugural poem, "On the Pulse of Morning," at Bill Clinton's swearing-in, the first writer to serve in such capacity since Robert Frost at John F. Kennedy's inauguration in 1961.

• Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can't practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage.

• Courage is the most important of all the virtues, because without courage you can't practice any other virtue consistently. You can practice any virtue erratically, but nothing consistently without courage.

• One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.

• I think we all have empathy. We may not have enough courage to display it.

• If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude.

•  I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back.

• All great achievements require time.

• I learned a long time ago the wisest thing I can do is be on my own side, be an advocate for myself and others like me.

• I'm grateful to intelligent people. That doesn't mean educated. That doesn't mean intellectual. I mean really intelligent. What black old people used to call 'mother wit' means intelligence that you had in your mother's womb. That's what you rely on. You know what's right to do.

• My life has been one great big joke, a dance that's walked a song that's spoke, I laugh so hard I almost choke when I think about myself.

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 How will you feel when you wake up in the world that is void and you all alone, no assistant from someone. You hit and gather alone, picture that. It seems boring right?. Be there for other as people are/were present and  supportive when you needed them.

The universe can't without force that keeps it going, humans are helpers of one another. The main purpose while we were made in two's was to be there, assist each other. There is this aphorism my mother always say'' Life is mutualism. We eat each other to grow''.


Encourage one another: People are weak vessels. They feel reluctant, they give up easily when they are left alone, ignored and not cared for. They like this negative thinking of being unimportance.  They lack the active force that pushes some to do something but when someone is right next to them, empathizing and telling them words of encouragement it boost their mindset, lower the laziness and motivate them to vim more.


Empathy: Living is voluminous, life is convolution. Sometimes the emotions that we harbour drives us insane and the world gets heavy to carry. You just wish you're understood but things go sideways. Being there for those that are in such states of mind empathetically.Showing them there are not alone by giving a little sense of understanding.

Rejoice and weep together: Loving someone  implies  sharing all moment together weather it's good or bad. Rejoice with people when they tend to find joy and happiness, weep with them when part or whole of it is taken away.


Build Up One Another:  Somebody backed you up to become who you are today(probably your guardian), you cannot proclaim self made but a half because someone have helped you out during the race.  Someone taught you things you never knew.
Helping is inescapable, it reciprocation of what someone else has done to make you strong. Once in our life we do need someone to look up to, build up others dreams like you do yours. Give them right and reason to exist.

''Treat people as if they were what they out  to be,and you help them to become what they are capable of being'' _ Goethe. 

Recognize Others Existence and do something memorable,.....Do you know that most amazing thing that can happen to someone is being recognized they exist ?. And most of all is bring them to the spotlight. Some famous musicians, actresses  were all discovered and brought to the path of fame by someone like you. Do unto others what you do to yourself.

''A person is a person because he recognizes others as persons''_ Desmond Tutu.

Light Them Up:   Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown again into instant flame by an encounter with another human being. They comes a time when we loose thing we never thought we could . When we fall from the pinnacle we reach. Be there for them by replacing a  part. light, cheer them up, introduce them to new ways of climbing to that perfect high again.

A great man is by deeds not by birth, anyone one that wants to be great stands up for others, a strong man's strength is a waste if he don't use it to defend the weaker once. When we die what matters is not how large we lived but how many people we help to attain the height we obtained.

Be there for others....

 Our habits can stand for us, speak and show the kind of individual we are, it has the tendency to cause misfortune and also attract better things to us if it's  conscience free. Karma has it that we reap what we sow, bad habit cannot cultivate good fruits. Habit,  yea it sucks, we all posses them.
Bad habit are negative behaviour lifestyle and they worth doing away to improve our lives.

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Below are some bad habit you part away from to improve your personal life.

 #1. Smoking: Anytime my eye comes in contact with a cigarette packet, a warning is written on them'' The world health warms that smokers are liable to die  young'' and it so funny that after reading it a responsible somebody will still go on and smoke a stick and even a whole pack. Smoking has bad side effect on practitioners, according to quitsmokingsupport smoking kills and are one the act that  gives rise to diseases like cancer,cardiovascular disease, respiratory system.

#2.Gossiping: This a trend this days, it's all over the social media, people do this as a part time joy, distributing rumors all over like flyers, talking about other people, friends and family, it's  middling, it has huge negative impact on those that do it.


#3.Not Letting the little light of yours shine:  Negativity are setbacks and dams to living a well fulfilled positive life, we hinder and limit ourself more than normal. There is a purpose of life, to live out loud, the let our good attitude reflects but the dark cloud tend to throw thunder storms, and we too don't take a stand against them but sit reluctantly expecting things to change himself which is impossible.

#4.Not Letting go: Letting is an opportunity to eliminate unwanted things and people in your life not giving up, stop holding things that brings you no happiness, people that don't add value to your life.

#5. Lie, Not Taking responsibility for your action:  The worst you can do is do something and not man enough to admit that you did it.Anytime you run away from  your responsibilities you deny yourself. And any  moment you tell a lie you post a fake image of yourself.

#6.Managing unhealthy and abusive relationship: Any relationship that you're limited from having access to true happiness avoid them, abusive relationship involves verbal or physical communicated that leave you with pains. Never manage while you're dying.

#7.Stop letting people make decisions for you and controlling you. You own your life, when you'll lose you lost it all alone, what you'll become is a decision you make not someone else's .


#8.Overspending.  Are the type that buy anything ,even the once you don't want?. Recall Rihanna almost went bankrupt because of overspending. Cut down unimportant budgets. see.(Is your future secured?.)

#9.Running from your problems. When you faced a particle problem squarely it flees but when you act the fool by running away it pursues you because you gave him right to. You own is yours truly,fear can't take them  away. Instead look for a way to solve them.

#10. Living in the past, not letting go and trying to be perfect: Life a momentary thing it moves forward not backward. You have might have burnt bridges you crossed way back and they all bygone, it has nothing on you ,picture the future and great opportunity it holds. Let go the quilt, you'll never gonna be perfect so, stop trying to be.

 Friendship has a huge impact on your life, they are are like dirt. They nourish or stunt your growth .Friends are heaven sent ( the right ones), and  living hell if you didn't choose wisely. They can influence you, change and make life fun and worthwhile in times of need.

 Nature gave us them as an assistant to virtue. They are manifestation of moral excellency.
 Everyone has, makes friends but not all benefits from them, recently i shared a post, a question i emphasized on networking effectively,  the effect it  has on us. Iron sharpen iron, friends can be off huge importance to our life , health and well-being.

Friends Can Help Improve Your Life


Share Every Moment With You.  True friends are  like Air they are always around in good times to celebrate with you and also in hard times  to comfort you. Baltasar Gracian said'' Friendship multiplies the good of life and divides the evil''. Indeed they do, some can be caring like our mothers, nurture and smile with us in the day and comfort and stay wide awake at night.



Boost Your Happiness.To  Throw a way a honest friend is throwing away a world, Life is lived a half if happiness is not in existence and happiness is incomplete if it's kept without sharing.

Friends can be a source of joy, any time i meet or see my old friends and we get into conversation it brings my joy and i feel content. Friends can mean happiness it varieties of unimagined ways, take your girlfriend/boyfriend, (family) for instants, when you first fell in love, you smiled and feel complete any-time you spent a moment together. Compare it to when you first got you heart broken,  spot the difference.



They Make Life Easy. There is this concept that life is not easy but i think it can be simplified through genuine connections with the right set of people who gives you right to it.
Albert Schweitzer said, '' You don't live in a world all alone. Your brother are here too''. Brothers are outstanding version of friends, they are the only cement that will ever hold the world(you) and make it a better place,(they are pillars, they strengthens , hold you firm.).



Put You on the Right track When You Fall Out. When life seems uncertain and you  lose the religion and morals, you loose your focus by associating with negative people, develop unhealthy and unwholesome habits, friends will do all they can to get on back on track  through constants warning and encourage to see why it important to part away  from unhealthy lifestyles like excessive intake of alcohol or exercise that are harmful.'' Misfortune shows those who are not really friends''( Aristotle).



Friendships Encourages Success. ''True friends......faces in the same direction, toward common project, interest, goals.'' To succeed in life you build network with those of the same goal and interest. You can't pointing your focus on success while your surround yourself with looser,people with no dreams.
 I made this terrible mistake way-back while in high school, when i was about to write my final exams(Waec,Neco), like 3 months to i realized my whole year were waste so i had to switch lane and sit up, associate with those that  can help me grow more in understanding. And i can tell that nothing was the same, few months later i became a success factor like my new friends.

 Good friends are fertilizer of life, they add nutrient to your well-being and growth, some  are like water they makes you grow greener and fresher or flood and wash away life's manure totally.

• True friends supports and makes your dreams come through.

Friends shows you the better view of life and things therein, they bring out the best of you, walk with you in the dark. They have health and financial benefit. Personal growth require learning, challenge and most of all positive influence. Good and well connected companion with positive influence is a key to personal self improvement and growths.

The easiest way to get ahead quickly is to walk with those that has similar gaol, the most quickly ways to get something is to build relationship with people. One of the ways to be successful is to associate or network, not just network but build a quality one with the right people.


The low life people in our society never thought  of associating with the successful ones, they spent their whole time with those who are downward in all corners of life and still desire to be upward.

When you make friends with those that are connected, you connect your cable to the socket that has power.The mentality of a poor man is filled with poverty and hope while that of the rich is full of strategies and how to build quality relationship.

You can have a lot of potential, idea but lack the right link or connections but an individual who have got the strong networks it's easy to move the idea to the next level.

They say show me your friends and i'll tell you who you're, and you have probably heard the phrase, it not what you know but who.


A friend and a co-blogger posted on his Facebook timeline..

And i agree with him, his right, he said that fact that ''The richest people in the world look for and build networks. Everyone else looks for work.''

People who could be going through depression or maybe manic problem definitely exhibit or maybe display every single form of unwanted effect involving depression which professionals enables you to are aware that disheartened individuals have got. Usually it's definitely barely visible this kind of manifestations but not develop the capability to assist yourself or maybe  people who are going through the same issue.

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Depression is a state of low mood and aversion to activity that can affect a person's thoughts, behavior, feelings and sense of well being or  neurotic condition characterized by an inability to concentrate, insomnia, and feelings of extreme sadness, dejection, and hopelessness.

You can get a lot of signs and symptoms of depressive disorders in which frustrated people might actually have taken nonetheless they don’t must experience every single one of them before you truly help these individuals obtain clinically determined and be treated due to this illness. Additionally, considering that signs and symptoms of depressive disorders truly vary, some time  their "attacks" differs as well.

Sometime i get depressed too, it's really frustrating it's a brother to negative thoughts, below are few symptoms of depression.


1.Extended period of unhappiness or perhaps not necessarily feeling "up with it, inches those people who are generally feeling not necessarily in the disposition, who'd quite mope around the house as well as have a pity for one's self.



2.Thinks despairing, perennial pessimist: talking about sensation I'm sorry pertaining to one’s self applied, another symptom of depressive disorders is usually every time a individual actually appears like he/she possesses practically nothing to look forward to within her or his living. Concerning becoming the perennial pessimist, individuals who posses this sign of depressive disorders are usually extremely damaging  negative and hopelessness comes  in your thoughts.