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16 Things Happy People Do Differently

Things Happy People
Happiness is but a moment
Fulfilled and happiest individual in the society may turnout to be those who posses little or no material things. Contrary to the wide accept believe that there's nothing money cannot do. Happiness isn't totally a priceless choice. Many have sacrifice lot just to  achieved , live and maintain this choice.

Things Happy People  Do Differently.


1.Happy People Let Go the Past, they don't believe in Karma. A well accepted fact that a man's past deeds can hunt his future. Why let the past hold you back you the moment you're in is full of ink that you easily used to recreate an unforgeable present. Happy people don't fill their mind canal and somewhat scary believes.

2.Happy People Develop Strategies To Cope in Worst Situation. As life tumble them on blocks and spins around, they still stand firm. Absence of money don't border them cause they know being alive alone is something money can't buy. So much naturally disaster, diseases outbreaks and  worst cases are numerous now a days but happy people still feel save.

3.They See Problem as a Challenge that can be overcome in no time.  They moment you accept that life isn't not fair and you accept that fact which you cannot change. Dealing with any kind of challenges. Happy people refocuses they point of view. And started seeing problems are ordinary challenge even when it seems scary. They accept it and let go by facing their fears with action.

4.They Practice Gratitude. One attitude people with happy minds have in them is that of learning to be grateful in all areas. They deal with things in correct manners which in turn display how grown the person is. And this makes them stronger. Expressing gratitude is more than merely saying thank you.

5.They Don't Worry About Other  People's Thought. When you are successful and happy sad and frustrated jobless group of people which set table all just to damage the image you've created. The other name for people is TALK. Glad minds don't mix people's thoughts they turn total blind eyes to them.

6.Distance Their Self From Toxic People:  Living that happy life is a process. Rules in regulations needs to obeyed and boundaries, bombs must be built. You can't claim to be wise then mix business with pleasure. Positivity has nothing in common with toxicity.  Deal with negative people by keep miles away from those who seems to be shifting the balance.

7.Invest In Relationship. They Love, care and surround them self with happy people.  There is no true joy in life is love isn't the top priority. Relationship is all about networking with people who contribute to your well-being positively. Building a solid one with other happy people increases the rate and flow your enthusiasm.

8.Focus More On Spirituality. The best things in life goes to those who pursue spirituality, they find peace and contentment in life despite the nature of it's uncertainty. Putting God first in all things unlocks blessing in time and that's exactly what the most happiest human on earth have.

10.Cultivate Optimism. They develop confident, optimism provoke self believe  and in their potentials to settle in kind of problem they face. Cultivating optimism might seems impossible to the mediocre because recognising they pessimism to reverse certain thought is totally hard-luck but to Happy people they change they way pessimist view things.

11.Don't Make the Same Mistakes . The moment they realize, the bridge you burnt turn out to be the once you crossed. They don't beat they self up and try to right their wrong. But do some adjustments never to make the same again.

13.Manage Stress. In today's world stress in common. It's a part of life and it has the power to strike into emotions and physical.  Stress can be negative when it's chronic. Increasing the risk of diseases like depression. Stress management is the key a happier life.

14.Chase Dreams, Live In the Moment. Don't procrastinate, postpone they joy of today for tomorrow which may never come. The happiest one are those who make out time from their busy schedule to savor small pleasures of everyday's life. Pay more attention to the positive of the present, dreams big and work on turning goals to dreams than boarding about the past which you can never right.

15.Don't Make Excuses. They take  responsibilities, don't blame it on others when failure boards with them. What they do is  pro-actively try to change for the better.

16.They Don't Compare their Self to Other. When you know you're unique and special, beautiful and gifted. No one can come in between you and your self. Happiness is a choice, people who make this choice don't compete or compare their self to others because they know their worth.

Happiness is a continuous things, so is life, we live and learn, the same apply to being happy, you grow to more discoveries , learning and investing more on self improvement. And be all they can be. And above everything they don't base their happiness on human and material possessions.

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The 7 Keys to Unlocking Your Inner Greatness And Happiness

The definition of true happiness to me is when you lived a life worth living, a life that some else appreciates, a beneficiary life but not to your glory but for the wellbeing and joy to those in your mediate surrounding. Happiness is a choice  and a battle of the fittest.  A journey which money can't buy or pay for it's tickets.  A height attain upon sacrifices and consistency. True happiness can be discover in places no one thought it could. Many believes that materialism can buy but in times it turnout temporary. I used to think getting rich  ,  high and dancing alone is the true definition of happiness but along the way i came to understand that 7 things can unlock lifes best things.
Greatness And Happiness

1.Be Kind Hearted: The gateway to that everlasting smiles is cultivating that mind of putting the well being of a stranger first. How does it feel when someone you shows kindness with tender  love. ?The joys of being the Jesus of the new age, being kind, helping someone  to see through, being a role model to look up to. There is no true joy than seeing someone fulfilled on the path you showed them. It just don't end but continuously wherever needs arises. The greater your passion the higher the degree of your happiness. The true meaning of life is to plant trees, under whose shade you do not expect to sit. ~Nelson Henderson.

2.Share Your Knowledge: When you let your own thoughts have total control over you. The chance of unlocking that passion for others might be hindered. You only go places when your thoughts is shared to help improve others.  Sometimes i wonder how stagnant and void the world would have been if everyone keeps his knowledge without passing them to the young and hunger generation. You don't have to be a professional, experiences is all that matters.  This era technology has made it easier, you can sit at the comfort of your home and show the world what you've got. And being passionate keeps the flow going and the more exposed it's gets and accepted the more joyous you're.

3.Respect Others Tradition and Idea:  Everyone wants to be respected, noticed and be among the best. The same measure measure you gives is the same you'll be given. This days differs in religions and believes and numerous ideas from different people. Makes it's complicated to some people to maintain the balance between their own and showing respect to others tradition, ideas .  Peace and tranquillity can be  met and a peaceful and a stable world with no religious hatred traits is a happy place to live in.

4.Know Your Limit:  Nothing under the sun is unlimited. Even Happiness, it might sound strange.  One can only go beyond when he seeks happiness from things that last for a while, temporary things like material things. When you based your happiness on people  when they're no longer there you becomes a loser with nothing but regrets. Knowing your limit is all about doing what makes you happy and hanging there. And avoiding anything thing that will shift the balance.

5.Practice ;what you Preach. The most cause of so many unhappy ending especially in relationships is building the foundations on lies and falsehood. This days everyone is talking and no one is listening. One mistake made can turn against you tomorrow. Never  hurt the hands that fed you and don't let the bridges you crossed be the one you burn. Practice what you preach is doing what's right, to set am example. You can't tell someone to quit smoking when you're a chain smokers. Same applies to unlocking that closed doors that welcomes happiness.

6.Work for the Joy of It: One the secrets of success apart of from getting started is loving what you're doing. Being consistent no matter what. I believe nothing can survive a test of time if the individuals involves don't love what they do. Doing things for the joy of it increases the passion. Only those after the gain gives up in a long run.

7.Look Ahead and Help Others to Look Ahead: Don't settle down halfway.  There is so much to see, the  future holds too much. The present is just a piece. See yourself owning all you ever wanted and living a fulfilled and a  happy life. Don't get higher and party alone build  network,confidence,power and respect, be kind, gives the little you have, don't do what you know nothing about. Do it because it brings joy to you soul. The joy of everything is seeing those you gave umbrella owning a pair.

Start Taking Control: 10 Things You Should Start Doing To Yourself

Start Taking Control:

Busy schedule most at times and laziness tempers with our well being.Having full control of your self is far beyond eating good and dressing nice. Love is care and care is of different stages, it's proper balance of ones physical,spiritual,emotional stage. Maintaining a good hygiene,health to self improvement. Many procrastinate, other lets others decide for them while other save for tomorrow and limit their self from certain right and privilege now.

Note that there is fine line between making most out of today and trading what you desire most all for the pleasure of today. Life  and things goes sideways this end and it's advisable to secure the future and enjoy the present still.

Are you still a slave to your own self? Then who's the boss. Never limit yourself. Starting taking control of your life and acquire all the necessary things that you ought to obtain. Being now, start doing the below thing to your self.

1. Take Good Care Of Yourself

A healthy lifestyles and practice improves one's self, it's easy to have a pure mind and be a good shape when you eating good, stop eating junk foods and managing when you know the it not advancing your physical health. Exercise daily, making all those joint and the whole of your body system vibrant. And never forget to have enough rest after a hard day at work, never try to cheat sleep because you can't. An individual who takes good care of his self is a happy,positive minded man.

2.Flee Away From Negative Thoughts

No amount of negative conversion has the power to triumph over any discomfort the only out of it is apply techniques, to get rid of them when it comes to your nothing that negative self talk is within, detach it and don't gives room for it.

3.Stop Making Assumption

Self judgemental without proof of being guilty or of what other thought about you, the imagination of not being accepted like everybody that surrounds you when  you have no proof that it's truth. Assuming that people are pissed of because you mistake A for B or little bird is probably gossiping about you as you walked by is of no important. Instead approach the little bird but why worrying thing without proof, thing you're not actually sure about? Look for proof instead of making assumptions.

4. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Thankful For

There are 24 hours in a day, you spent nearly all on jobs,in the office all in the names of making money. Taking few seconds off to appreciate life and things therein won't have any negative effect on you and your business.

5.Worry Less

If you found yourself being dealt with by excessive worries the best thing to do is interrupt such unpleasant feeling with something totally different.  You can match Mr. Ben or listen to songs and if it's still persist then get out your comfort zone. Mingle with happy people who makes you smile.

6. Refrain from Trying to be Perfect

Everyone get piss off, you yelled at someone or say provocative words to people. No one is totally clean, have no fear of perfection because you'll never reach there.

7. Learn Loving, Yourself and Others


Nothing is so sweet like a kiss from a friend, and nothing is so romantic than giving out love unconditionally. No certificate or practice is required to care and be there for others around you. And most of all treating yourself the exact way you do others.

8. Be There For Others, Help Others Out

It's brings joy  while helping someone out of situations. Volunteer to build churches, school. You can involve in community development or humanitarian service. Volunteer your precious busy time to reach out for someone or your money. The more you care for others the more your blessing  doubles.

9.Increase Your Social Activity


By doing this you boast yourself. Negative thinking comes to lonely minds, social interactions increases your happiness. Networking with fun loving and positive person, positive energy will influence you. You can use the social media ,social gathering. Go outdoors and interact with people with differ believes.

10. Life Happily Everyday

The very purpose of live is to seek happiness.  Seek not happiness too greedily. Change your thought because it depend on your thoughts. Eat when you feel hungry,sleep, interact with people and never hurt someone. Smile even in worst situations.

Life is too short to be lacking behind. Live life to it's fullest, explore. Make a different, leave legacy behind. Many believes will always come around to swing the balance. Start taking control now or never.


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Daily Reason To Be Happy


Uncertainty of life bears a forbidden fruits in the mind of people ,sadness,negative thoughts takes over .

Lack blinds the happy atoms ,eradicate that carefree mindset.
Unarchived dreams, stagnation of life's active moving force makes happy person turn blind eye to living with excess or no enthusiasm.

Life was created with an option, you have to determine between a sad-faced and a bright positive heart.

Hard times comes in the scene, unwanted events caves in living you with no option than negative feeling of being worthless.

Today i bring to you one reason why situations shouldn't  take away Happiness  from your life.

1.You're alive. Live ,property is  lost  daily, last month a Malaysian airline boarding .. got lost in Indian ocean,100s of lives got lost, but fortunate you live to see another day.

2.You're healthy., Go to the hospital you'll know that the reason to living happily every  is in existence.


A couple of human survives in adverse poverty, laying back down is not an exception to them despite the low life,  they live happily, each square meal gives them a reason to breath again.

The happiest people aren't those with the largest bank deposit,money, cars, fame, health,friends and love but those who choose to live life with no matter how hard or uncomfortable. The one who appreciate life by loving it and everything around them.

"For every minute you are angry, you lose sixty seconds of happiness."_Ralph Waldo Emerson.
The world needs happy people, they are more progressive and productive. Great present and future lies  for them because they attraction favour and good things. And above all happy people are healthier.



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What Do you Base Your Happiness Around?

What Do you Base Your Happiness Around?

Life is a piece of art, nature creates it in such a way that one can resign his, choose the colors, paints amount of pictures he wants,  The creators made it flexible, you have the keys to yours life and the free will to lock if you decides to.

Happiness is the emotion of being happy; joy. All these are potential every  person possess  one but discovering them 'beats one's brains out' so they look for a god, someone to make them happy. Something to base their happiness around.

Your thoughts can define the state of mind and they path things will flow on,   People base  their happiness on varieties on things ranging from money, women/men, love and materials things.

It's believed love is the main source of it,  lack of understand make people think that basing their happiness around a woman and man can make them major, when they tear apart  they become sad and frustrated.

The whole inhabitants of this moment have this at heart '' Money can buy all i ever needed'', all they want is that mighty dollar so, they get it at all cost, any possible means but when its more than enough it becomes a burden. All they ever wanted was get it and it can buy that happiness but something ironic appeared on the big screen. Money can't buy you happiness because it's overpriced.



Material things gives you this superior  kind of feeling, you're feeling like ' I'm on top of the world, like you really have it all when you really had nothing.

One who base his happiness on fantasies that are man made is bound to be deplorable why because those things fade away with time. So pathetic, it advisable to base your happiness on thing that are immaterial.

Making things like money, lovers you source of happiness at first will seems ethical, you know nothing last forever, when that source of your well-being is no more maintaining that position due  to  certain thing, how will you breath again?.  Thoughtless, no one one wish to let go their happiness but things changes and moments dies. The choice left is sit and watch the thing you based your favourable fortune leaves, all the large papers, estates,women all gone. Will you still be bold enough to defend yourself or say i am alright?.

Materialism and humans are not to be trusted at all, they can disappoint you. The guys you think you live for today might turn out to be the person you wish you never knew, the millions you have one day can turn around out  to make you sad and frustrated.


'' Do not let your happiness depend on something you may lose. If love is to be a blessing, not a misery, it must be for the only Beloved who will never pass away.'' C,S Lewia.
If you base your happiness on material things which usually don't last forever you're inferior to those who focus one more important things.


Over to you,

What do you base your happiness around? material,women, and large paper?.







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Living Happily Everyday

"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts." - Marcus Aurelius
Life was meant to be enjoyed on daily basis but a number of people instead put their problem in front , this makes them worry day and night when they are supposed to leave their burden aside and enjoy the moment, life.


You don't have to worry about about what you'll eat or drink tomorrow, today marks the begin and the end. Enjoy the life you have, many are looking for what you have and you're busy worrying about what you lack.

Happiness is a choice even life itself, you have to choose and decided to live happily. Life won't change it's course no matter how mighty your burden is. Never find yourself in sad mood or any situation that lacks an atom of joy, depression are bound to happen irrespective of who you're but never let it take away that HAPPY you.
Living Happily Everyday

Happiness or Joy won't fall from heaven, manner only fell in the Bible, a truck loaded with smiles won't ring your doorbell. Happiness and joy are characteristic embed in your genes, it's up to you to develop it or die with it. Love from people won't bring you joy but more sadness until you take up responsibility and start making the right decision."i want to HAPPY then go after it and it will be attracted towards you.

One thing is for certain, people will always talk but they got nothing on you, problem will arise but they all work for your good. Expect problems and eat them for breakfast.
" Problems are not stop signs, they are guidelines."
Express it and let people see that you're, smile like its your last. All day all night because its yours truly.




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Happiness is a Choice


Nothing in this wide world is far away from our reach, we decorated and make life to be unfair when we supposed to be bleaching ours.

Any person that seeks negativity will live it and probably dies of it. Happiness is a product positive mindset, we all have right to living a fulfilled and happy life.

Happiness unlocks barriers, opens all close doors and gives us a good reason to breathe again.
A lot of us are temporary missing out because we tend to deprives joy, we let the environment we crew up cave our destiny and poison the mindset of positivity.


The common and deadly mistake some people makes is laying blames on others, the more you think people are the course of your misfortune the more you attract greater misfortune.

The law of attraction states that we attract whatever we want, our thoughts create our reality. So, any person that think of sad events , will sadness will be on his path.

Our thoughts can effect our life, a man whose head is filled with negative thought will produce nothing positive.
Any man that fails in his works is too be blamed for his failure. Winners and losers weren't born, they are products of what they think.

A failed man is a lazy man, no wonder why the bible says that a lazy man shouldn't be given food.
Use the law of attraction to your advantage. Seek Happiness and good things. No body is free totally from the catastrophe of life. Happiness,life are choices choose wisely. Stay happy.

Its Up to You.




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How to Think Positively


How to Think Positively
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You probably heard of the holy trinity the body, mind and soul they control our lives and if  one of them is negative our life turn crooked.  In order for things to be on the wider and clear path the positive mindset must be activated.

Negative thoughts are one of the agent of failure, lost of self esteem, self hatred but cultivating the mindset of a positive thinker free us physically and spiritually from the darkness of life.
Negative thought hits everyone even those who teaches people how to get ride of it. But practice still makes perfect. In order to get rid of dark thoughts you have to embrace the light with the whole of your heart, mind, body and soul.


You can't just relax on your four  armed chair and expect it to erase it self, you take a step, work your way out gradually you'll conquer.



  •  Make Up Mind :


There are two ways to life and one is being ready to live, to face the reality and embrace it as its swings like a roller coaster, as it goes around and comes around. Before you go for any thing you must first think about it after that you make up your mind to win no matter the amount of stumbling blocks you meet on the way.

Being ready is all about being prepared. Never underestimate your strength,  you can make it because other people have walked that path before.



  • Take A Step:


Making decision isn't all, you've made up your mind the next thing to do is TAKING A STEP.
This reminds me of a local TV game which i watched days back, the introductory soundtrack was
  'Why don't you take a step' So take the necessary steps now or never.
 The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. "
You have successfully crossed the two stages now its time to start achieving  the goals. Having  positive thoughts is a process. It far beyond ordinary I Want To...


How to Think Positively.


1. Work on developing more positive thoughts about your self and people around you. Display positive emotions and attitude.


2. Cultivate Optimism.

Better is not enough expect that the best is yet to come ,never be pessimist be optimist .This how optimist act, they view bad or unfortunate events as isolated incidences that are outside of their control, while pessimists view such things as more common and often blame themselves.

Don't allow disappointments, difficulties and obstacles affect your moods and state of mind.
View that as nothing but a common occurrences that trigger your mindset to be rocky.


3.Avoid Negativity at all cost.


Avoid harbouring or involving in negative inner dialogues.Refuse negative thinking, it's a waste of time and its result to anything profitable.


4. Avoid Catastrophic Thinking


Catastrophizing is when you engage in imagining the  worst possible outcome of something by
overreacting and letting your thoughts drive you to a highly uncertain scenarios.
Stop allowing the fear of the unknown to border you, stop worrying about the future, its bright already. Live and enjoy the present.
  "I never worry about because its comes soon enough"
5. Surround yourself with positive people.
You can't be good when you keep bad company same applies to being a positive thinker. Permit me to quote Kanye West's lyric

"How can you faithful in a house full of wh*re"
Hey forget about it and pull out what is important to us here which is "Faithful and  House Full Of".It entail that the kind of people around you can't effect the decisions you make in life. Interact with those that encourages  your dreams and bring value to your life.


6. Learn from others.

Reading about others who overcame negativity and hardship in life can be of help.

7. Get yourself busy.

Boredomness at time provokes negative thoughts, if you are the indoor type look for something that will keep you busy. It might be anything. Try doing stuffs you haven't been doing before.

8. Set goals no matter how hard this might seem at first ,never give up keep yourself busy working on achieving them. Any goal accomplished gives you a reason to live and it will boost you ego.


Nothing in life is impossible to overcome, your negative thoughts aren't the worst thing in life, just believe that you can live a positive life. Never think about the negative words people throw at you because they got nothing on you.


Your Turn

Have you ever had negative thought , if yes how did you overcome them?.

How To Be Happy As A Divorced Dad

The tragedy of divorce is heart breaking and it hurts so much, breaking  free is even thouger  than anything else. Moving on after divorce is cumbersome but  impossible. We have to ability to get over it, gradually the sad feel of loneliness.

What Moving On Means

Even though starting dating again and finding a new partner is part of moving on, its  a matter of choice not a compulsive. It always hard to move on when you always regret one so,the guy needs to relax a bit. If the cause of the divorce was from you then you  its not unpleasant seeing someone news.
Moving on means having the ability to treat your ex in a polite manner, if she  stand on being preposterous and starts acting up then take a leave.  Look for a better way to handle the issue at hand like the kids. Ignore wrangling about things that can’t be undone. 

Can You Become Friends With Your Ex?

Divorce doesn’t  create  any room for enemy like, you can be  friends be nice to her, but  don’t be too nice that she’ll think you need her back.

How To Show Her That You Want To Be Friends

You can reconnect with her for the sake of the kids, many father forsake their kids but no matter what divorced parents can still raise their children in harmony  and  give them normal life.

The most complicated side is when you try to reconcile  it can close all open doors, it can misinterpret  as wanting to be married again. Maintaining appropriate and steady  communication is the key. An acknowledgement of mistakes made on both your parts will definitely make things a whole lot easier.
 As you try to set up awareness of normalcy in your life as family but not unite individuals, the possibility of finding joy is might. Pay attention to your kids.
Avoid   getting in intimate condition,  If you and your ex are doing one of “your talks”, keep the kids within earshot.  keep distances  from each other so you won’t be tempted to reminisce and engage in something that will harm your process.


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How To Stop Hating Being Single

More people are living the single life this days ever than before when they realize the partners they had earlier in life never stood a test of time , the single sphere seems impossible especially when the whole world have a common believe that relationship and marriage is a must. On the radio,tv, music everywhere love is one the most talked about.
    
Individual who choose to stay alone some times feel inferior because its seems like are left behind. When they see friends with females friends  in hot romance or maybe in some certain occasion everybody arrives in twos and you're alone. 


You may develop hatred for yourself ,You're not single but for a reason you're and it's never forever.
Fear of being alone may make a weak minded single person start catching feelings.  People rush into relationship then start making compromises and losing their identity. Do you want to loose yours too?
Being single doesn't mean you're scared of loving it simply means you appreciate the status and you're cool with it.
 I really enjoy being single again. I spent a lot of time in a relationship and the nearer we came to the end, the more difficult it got. You don't see things clearly as long as you're still involved.  
                   — Dido_Armstrong

Being single is not the end of time but the beginning of the discovery of true love and unlocking opportunities.
You can live a very fulfilled life while being single than when you were under others.
Below are some tips for making the most of being single.

How To Stop Hating Being Single
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1.Work on becoming the best you can:
You have a lot of potentials ,discover them and work on utilize them, got to the gym, play and watch football, go on vocations. Just do anything that pleases your heart.

2. Learn something new:
Never let any day pass you by with re branding your knowledge, get a home library, go out and learn baseball, dance. Figure out something you're passionate about then go for it.

3. Focus on friendship:
Being single doesn't mean you will stay alone at the extreme of the town all alone. Focus on making new and more friends , enjoy your introvert lifestyle.
Being single and free is far beyond just a mindset thing, you will come across stumbling blocks , they are temptations.

At times you will feel you lonely and sad, it's natural occurrence you must feel different, strange cloud  comes once in a while. But try restricting such.
I'm single because I was born that way. —Mae West

Don't let others (especially married friends and colleagues) pressure you into feeling inadequate about your single status. Marriage is not a compulsion but a lifestyle which is built upon arrangements.