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How Social Media and internet Affects Teenagers

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Technology seems to exceed humanity. Suddenly, the internet struck like bright lights on the eyes of many and everything changed. All that glitters might be gold but it's depends on your judgement. Life without the internet is like living in a world with no air. This century, the internet has broaden into a social community giving everyone somewhat privileged to explore the world in your closet. The social network like Facebook, Twitter ease interaction between people and also gives the opportunity to make friends with people around the world. The effects on teenagers due to it's rapid acceptance has been over-hyped for the past years. Many claim that the negative sides override the positive effects. Let's take a brief overview of these effects though.

The Negative Effect of The Social media.

The bad effect on teenagers is not rare, the first is the addiction.The internet can be really addictive which triggers the frequent uses. Several surveys have proven that high percentage of youth around the world are suffering from what is termed as internet addiction otherwise known as computer addiction, online addiction, or Internet addiction disorder (IAD). Which in turn results in unhealthy behaviour and lifestyle that has a huge effect. Personally, I found out few facts. I have been on the internet for years and from experience, the internet can be addictive and it can disrupt a clean soul into indulging in unhealthy behaviour .

The most common of these Internet addictions are cyber sex, online gambling, and cyber- relationship addiction.

1.Cyber Relationship: Online dating has grown to mainstream in the past years via the addiction to chat rooms and social networking sites like Facebook. Online Friendship has replaced family as people tend to spend more time chatting with online friends.

According to Underwood and Findlay (2004), online relationships adversely affect existing face-to-face relationships as much as traditional affairs. Their study explored the dynamics of relationship formation of the internet. A research of 75 adults who were in face-to-face and online relationships was carried out. Most reported more satisfaction with their online relationship than with their face-to-face one although few said that it was more important to them than their primary relationship.

Although only a quarter of the sample admitted that their online relationship had affected their primary one. Those participants, reported concealing the truth about the time or nature of their online activities. That they neglected everyday tasks, and that levels of sexual intimacy with their primary partner had dropped. This conclusion therefore brought about the next point- cyber sex addiction.

2.CyberSex Addiction: People who are in cyber relationships might be tempted to keep it real. They indulge in online sex via chats, pictures, videos to mention a few. On the other hand, exploring the net expose alot of serialize advert which might trigger the urge to pay visit to pornographic sites which might be implicating. In reality cybersex is exchanging erotic message ,picture, voices on chats room with someone else via the computer . At times masturbating.{See. How to Overcoming Porn Addiction}

People Who are addicted to the internet may also experience other side effects apart from listed above. Those effort could include: Depression and anxiety. People who use the internet mainly for
gaming or relationship because Of depressing nature of the real world are at high risk of being depressed more when they log out .They fail to acknowledge that the problem in the real world doesn't revolve by escaping from it.





  • Low Productivity: Time management is something internet addict find hard to do. Maintaining the balance seems hard so they end up losing track of time online. Low productivity in theirs lives due to lack of focus and trouble completing tasks.


Smartphone which is the most used to access the internet is not 100% safe. It has several social, physical and healthy side effects.

In a survey conducted by Leslie Perlow, PhD, the Konosuke Matsushita professor of leadership at the Harvard Business School, smartphone phone seems to aid internet addiction. According to her,70% said they check their smartphone within an hour of getting up .56% check their phone within an hour of going to sleep . 48% check over the weekend, including on Friday and Saturday nights. 51% check continuously during vacation. 44% said they would experience "a great deal of anxiety" if they lost their phone and couldn't replace it for a week.


The question is What exactly do these percentage of people do with
their smartphone?.

Positive Effect Of The Social media /Internet.


Rather than being addictive there still exist a positive effect. Just like knives in the kitchen which can be used to get things done which at the same time can be used to stab. Same Way the internet when not put in to good used can be dangerous but when put in good used can be advantageous.

1.The social media has ease the opportunity of making friends, networking among people from different countries unlike when the internet and smartphone, social networking sites weren't in existence. Hence, nothing was the same since the birth of technology.

2.Speed Communication: In matter of seconds information can be passed out to family members who are not closer. Unlike the pen and paper days, the letter writing era when you have to wait a whole month for a reply. The telephone, Facebook, Whatsapp ..make information transmission speedy.

3.Spice Up Relationship: The rate of infidelity caused by social media is incredibly increasing but social media like Facebook and Skype keeps long distance relationships closer. Its no doubt that it connects loved ones and keep them in touch from time to time.

4.Connects you with people of the same interest: on twitter you can decide who you follow. It makes life worth living. A football lover can connect with other football lovers.

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Social media isn't that bad for kids, in fact its more of important , it contribute a lot to the development of their confident. Also positive comments on Instagram photos makes them feel good.

Report I found on CNN  says: One in five teens says social media makes them feel more confident 52% of teens also say social media helps their relationships with friends
Media outlets tend to focus on the negatives of social media, such as cyberbullying.
Teens are also using social media for social good, experts say.

Like i illustrated above ''A knives in the kitchen  can be used to get things done which at the same time can be used to for injure people. Same Way the internet is when not put in to good used , it could be dangerous but when put in good used can be advantageous.''.




Online Dating Safety for Women

Online dating has made it to the mainstream many people now look for the trendy online dating sites in order to chat, have fun but along the way they forget about their safety.
Online dating is cool and at the same time hot as hell if not carefully done. Scammers are everywhere so I came up with few safety tips for both sexes but females in particular.

Don't give out your full information to someone you just met online. Like your personal email address, your residential address and your phone number. You might tell him that you reside in Nigeria but don't go further.

Use a nick name instead of your real name. You might not know  who is chatting with you, for safety purpose use Alias. Withheld your real name until the relationship gets hot.

Don't tell them where you work and what kind of job you do. They are stranger and it's not advisable to get to trust them easily.
Lastly, when the chatting has crossed the line and you people think it's time to meet fix the location yourself and make sure it's an open place with a lot of people around not a private place.

They say '' a word is enough for the wise '' that's why I don't want to say much, make used of the safety tips  above. There are many safety tips, you can add yours in the comments. Play safe.