Stop Hating Yourself: Learn How to Love Yourself
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I can recollect back in year 2010 when i was young and wild, i came in
contact with this saying when i read a little book about How to Woo A Lady. At
the end of the book the author wrote in italic! "Love yourself first if
you don't you cant love someone else even the girl you are about to get",
younger me i never understood what the author was talking about.
The mentality i had was trying to feel among by getting myself a girlfriend, i never succeeded despite the books a read. It was because i wasn't bold enough to take such move.
Three years later when i grew up because boys stop being boys when they the cultivate the mindset of men. I succeeded in making my 3 years old dream come through but there was something i never had which is what they author said, i never understood what and how to love myself.
All the time i spent with my beautiful fantasy i thought i had love for myself because i loved and cherished her but still i was still blind to the fact.
The mentality i had was trying to feel among by getting myself a girlfriend, i never succeeded despite the books a read. It was because i wasn't bold enough to take such move.
Three years later when i grew up because boys stop being boys when they the cultivate the mindset of men. I succeeded in making my 3 years old dream come through but there was something i never had which is what they author said, i never understood what and how to love myself.
All the time i spent with my beautiful fantasy i thought i had love for myself because i loved and cherished her but still i was still blind to the fact.
I spent time worrying about her,missing,texting and
calling i didn't even have much time for myself rather i was busy trying to
please someone else when am supposed to comfort myself.
One unfaithful day( i was boxed out of the picture) the future we
had took head shot, all the stars in my sky went off and i was locked out of
heavens gate. That night the trumpet was blown i thought Jesus had returned as
he promised and was a sinner so i thought am complete tarnish. I logged on to
Google to look for how to blackout the breakup depression(hurt myself ). That
was the day i realize i never loved myself why because i didn't have a clear
understanding and the benefit attached to it.
Loving Ones Self: What does it mean.?
Loving yourself goes beyond mere saying,its having control over
yourself, never letting someone to make you unhappy, like Glo you
rule your world making good plans and achieving it. Nothing good comes easy its
take much practise. But we spend our whole life searching for someone who
can love us when the only person that can love us is always right by our side.
Self Love Is Not a Crime:
Loving your self is never a crime but hating ourselves is a
serious crime. Using negative words on our self has a negative effect why
because there is power in spoken words."When you truly love yourself, you
are enough. Your happiness and well-being become a top priority. "
Why Love Myself?
You need to love love yourself because no body will love you for
you and accept you just the way are to the fullest. Loving yourself boost
your ego and it makes life simple and enjoyable.
“ Love yourself enough to take the actions required for
your happiness… Love yourself enough to cut
yourself loose from the ties of the drama-filled past…Love yourself enough to move on!
--Steve Maraboli
yourself loose from the ties of the drama-filled past…Love yourself enough to move on!
--Steve Maraboli
How to Love Yourself
1. Have Enough Time for Yourself, we spend the time of
our-lives chasing
materialism, working hard but we don’t have time for our selves, we don’t take
break like going on
vocations. Take a time out of your busy schedule and have spend a little time
alone or with friends and have fun.
2.Forgive yourself and others who offends you, if you eventually
step on toes or someone gets on your nerves don't take it too personal because
you mistakes don't define you, forgive and move on because life is too shot be
walking around with hatred on our mind.
3.Transform your mind set and put on that successful and positive
mindset if no one thinks you are important prove them wrong. Seek positive
things to yourself because you it worth.
4.View yourself as the most beautiful and important person on
earth. Have seen many girls complaining that they are not cute as their
friends, they ain't got nice curves. Love what you have got and believe that
the beautiful you is deep inside.
5.Treat yourself the way you want to be treated by others.
6.Don't loose yourself trying to become somebody else, why try to
look like celebrities? try to loose weight to be accepted by someone when you
are beautiful just the way you are.
7.Take very good care of your body, time and money. Eat good food
spend quality time doing things that please you and use your cash wisely.
10.Grow and learn how to be comfortable with any situation life
puts you because its just a test.
Love more
give more help others around you if needs arise. Life is all about you after
you are done with you then you will know how to treat others. There are many
ways to love yourself to the fullest so read more and don't forget to add more
in the comments.
Do you love yourself ?
Yes i do
ReplyDeleteofcours i love myself
ReplyDeleteHello ES thanks for your comments i hope you really love yourself but i love myself more than you.
DeleteHi Danny,
ReplyDeleteThis is of course an insightful post. Seeking happiness from someone else is one great disservice anyone could do to his or her self.
The Bible says, Love yourself as your...
So loving yourself is very supreme!
Hello Emmanuel, Many people think that they can't be happy being alone buy they forget that true love comes from beneath.
DeleteWish more people could read this lovely piece cos we all dedicate our time trying to please others while deep within we want the satisfaction of being loved by them. From this i'll be conscious of treating myself right than making others a priority.
ReplyDeleteThanks Grace i appreciate your thoughts i hope will you treat your self better than before and don't forget your neighbour.
DeleteThere's sumtin i learnt from dis post... You can't love others if you can't love yourself.
ReplyDeleteHello JOHN am glad you learnt atleast one thing i pray we all apply it properly.
Deletethanks for this tips , i really need this because i really don't have enough time for myself busy mom :) it really helps me thanks
ReplyDeleteYou are welcome dear
DeleteReal Nice Write-Up, this is one simple thing people fail to understand. I love being Larry Frank, i love my self.
ReplyDeleteNice Larry am glad people like you like are still in existence.
Deletehmmmm, learnt alot today, so its not just about her it's about US........nyc 1 dere
ReplyDeleteYes bro it's not all about her but you, you can't love her to the fullest if you don't have that love for yourself.
DeleteHi I am extremely impressed along with your writing abilities and also with the format in your blog. Anyway stay up to the excellent high quality writing, it's rare to find a nice weblog like this one these days.
ReplyDeleteHi, thanks for dropping by.
DeleteOf course loving oneself is very much necessary!!It will always make us get hurt and for a happy mind :)
ReplyDeleteYes but many underrate it.
DeleteNice Post, But I think love is not everything,
ReplyDeleteIt's so easy to beat ourselves up. When we do that, we never leave room to love ourselves. We need to love ourselves so that things in our live will start to come true. Thank you for the eye opening post!
ReplyDeleteHi Nate,
DeleteIt's true we spent time looking for happiness from outside when we are the happiness we seek, we need to love yourself first before we love others.
Hi Nate,
DeleteIt's true we spent time looking for happiness from outside when we are the happiness we seek, we need to love yourself first before we love others.
I really enjoyed this post. It is true, we have to love ourselves first. Only then can we be the best for someone else. And yes, I do love myself. Peace to you!
ReplyDeleteOhh!! Jeanne thanks alot , am soo glad you love it :).. PEace to you too
DeleteWonderful post here Daniel, this is really great, and for the answer to your question, yes, i love myself.!
ReplyDeleteThanks.
Isaiah thanks for dropping here, i appreciate. Its nice to here that you do.
DeleteDaniel,
ReplyDeleteIf you love you, others will too ;) Great tips. Good matches will meet the person who loves and respects themselves.
Thanks!
Great, the way you treat people is the same way you'll to treated.
Deleteyep. we need to love first our selves before loving others. how can we share love to others if we do not love our selves
ReplyDeleteMany never realize the importance they think loving others is everything.
DeleteTotally agree with this.. If you want to encourage, help and love others you should begin to yourself.
ReplyDeleteLife is all about how you treat yourself first same you can do unto others.
DeleteIf you don't love yourself then you can't love others..
ReplyDeleteI actually joke a lot that I have too much self-love for my own good. But seriously, I believe that it is so important to love your self, because that's the only way that you can really be able to give love to other people. :)
ReplyDeleteYou love yourself so much according to you,it means you have got to know how good it feels being a lover.
DeleteI agree with Patty, love will naturally overflow from within when & reach out to others if you truly love yourself. But truly loving yourself is not an easy task if one is broken.
ReplyDeleteNothing is forever easy, it takes much practice and time, broken people get fix herself if they desire to be loved.
DeleteLoving yourself is one of the most fundamental things you have to do to be able to share your love with others
ReplyDeleteTrue, it a foundation to through happiness.
DeleteThis is a great post. You need to love everyone
ReplyDeleteWhat Am I suppose to say? Its worth the time and energy reading this. Personally, I really don't think there's a way one could love other without loving themselves. As for your question "Do you love yourself ?" for me, it's a big YES! YES!! YES!!! because I seriously do.
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