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Knowledge is the most vital and useful things a man can ever have, its boost the level of understanding, keeps you wide awake and ahead of time. If you can do something that the person next to you can do that means you're his master. You knew it because you got the information and you digested it.

Many believes the knowledge is power, while other think money is but what having money 'above spar' when you don't have knowledge on how to manage it effective maybe via investment if not it will "burn a hole in once pocket'.

As a blogger reading is a habit you should develop, its sets your chance of excelling in your niche high. A good student that shines bright like a diamond in his class works reads, he reads wider than his sphere to catch up and to rise above all. He hit the books, he makes the A's.

In nowadays world reading habit is been smashed, the advancement in science and technology has cash the chip of reading.

The Internet has made its easier now,you can gain access to thousands of information and books free of charge. But that driving force seems to be weak-kneed.

Agree with Nosa E. Nosa when he said " Having a library is one thing, reading them is another things." People don't read this days.

The point here is...you should cultivated the habit of reading any piece of information you find, because you don't know what you might find in them.

“ A reader lives a thousand lives before he dies, said Jojen. The man who never reads lives only one. George R.R. Martin

I agree with the saying " only the educated are free" anyone that is cognizance of something is a free man. You don't have to be a degree holder but a graduate of the university of life.

Don't be an empty vessels, be influential. Go for knowledge. Make it over everything. A wise man isn't wise in vein his advancement in knowledge makes him wise.

“ The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you'll go. Dr. Seuss.

When you know better you do better, you think positive and you shine different, empty your purse into your head and it will stay there forever.

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Life is a precious gift and should he be utilized, lived to the fullest.Every one has the right to it,people limit their self from certain delicacies of life, they disobey the laws of nature in living a well and satisfying life. We all hold on to worthless and time wasting phrase, sipping from the holy grails of ' life is not fair'.But have you thought about bleaching yours?.I don't mean using Dencia's Whitening Cream but to stop doing harmful things that we do to our self every day.

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We are whom we think we are , nobody is responsible for our misfortunes, self hatred, low self esteem, poverty,and the rest of the bad things don't just come to us unless we invite them.
The law of attractive affirms it , like attracts like.

There are certain practice we indulge our self in that hinders us from living that life, below are things to do to help put an end.

1.Stop Hating Yourself:

we subsequently let bad emotions add negative treats to our thoughts, we feel rejected,hated, we are not doing enough, we are not beautiful,smart, we not intelligent, we too this and that unlike the people we see. All this makes us develop self hatred. I urge you today to stop hating yourself today and learn to love and cherish yourself today or nobody will.

2.Stop Trying to be Perfect:

Why waste time trying to look perfect just to make people congratulate you? OH! no, there's no award for that, perfectionist are loser in the world that every one need those that get things done.

3.Stop Trying to be like Someone:

If you have abundant love for yourself trying to be someone else will be completely uses, you can never be me, you can change the real you, so why put on an image or try to put on an attachment just to look like everybody else. Those Hollywood celebrities you make your role model that you're trying to be like do you know the real them?.

5.Stop Blaming Others for Your Mistakes:

The moment you start pushing you problems to others, you loose and deny yourself. The length which you can achieve you dreams depends on how far you accepts and take responsibility.

6.Stop Worrying About the Past:

You did some wrong years back? those days are gone, they happened for a reason which is to make you who you are today, you can never right you wrongs so why worry about them?. Things don't just happened but were meant to,so instead you sitting regretting about the past work on how to make the present a better one.

7.Stop Allowing others let you down and stop letting others down:

The measure you gives others is the same people will measure to you,respect is reciprocal,life is a two side coin.

8.Stop focusing on the Negative:

Life is so unfair that it can change people, feeding them with negativity, we worry about things won't get any better, my whole life is finished, i can do that because i will fail e.t.c, stop!! focus on the positive things, embrace positivity and break free from dark thoughts because it won't lead you no way.

9.Stop being Jealous of Others:

Everybody is and can never be equal,people will always aim higher than you, work on adding value and aiming your away than to envil others of their successes.

10.Stop Running Away from Your Problem:

Problems can never take to their hills until someone send them aways, face them squarely if you can't eliminate them you live with them.

11.Stop Deceiving and Lying to Yourself:

Why waste time and your energy trying, claiming to be who you're not even when you know it , you still try to confusing yourself that you're real.For example; you don't believe in certain thing don't force yourself to accept it.

Lastly don't buy happiness, happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.

" Smart listens to the head. Stupid listens to the heart "

The connectivity between the heart and the head, when it comes to taking certain actions, we thought about it times without number before we implementing it.
Sometime get we deceived, multiply thoughts got us lost, day dreaming visualising it wishing they were materialize so we know which one is real.
The heart be saying this is it, the head be mixing different thoughts, telling us it isn't. Now which one should me follow?.

When it comes to choosing or relationships issues you will be told to listen to what your hearts is telling. And when we do at times we end up remorseful.

I observe a lot, i was once mixed with this issue of choices. When i was much younger i remember been told times without number to follow my heart. The conscience ,head and heart battles, The head will be babbling the heart won't absolve. I did it as they said along the line i had a crooked smile.

I discovered that the heart is not usually right as i thought. If the quote above is to be applied does that mean i was stupid?. Maybe not but really.!

"The struggle i was in then was to develop the strength i need for today" they say Life is a lesson, the trick is to find out what it’s trying to teach you..

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Following Our Heart is it Proper?

In today's world follow your heart is what the preach every corner,even when our conscience says we're not on the smooth path but since our heart felt it's OK , so we are totally right. But the bible and the quote above is against it, let me quote it once more so you can recollect it if you forgot.

" Smart listens to the head. Stupid listens to the heart "

The bible just saved this quote by confirming it because i was thinking of how i will defend it.

"He who trusts in his own heart is a fool, but he who walks wisely will be delivered" (Prov. 28:26)

Our emotion can lead us astray, our heart has the power to overshadow the conscience, the heart is weak and too open, its accept things as long as its comes with a piece of love and affection.

Follow your heart was once my best phrase until i read the book of Jeremiah...

“''The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?” (Jeremiah 17:9) Earlier he says, “Cursed is the man who trusts in man!”

It's still a little bit sick, maybe i won't follow none of them but i do listen to my head often, the heart can lie..

Do you follow your heart or head
Which one do you follow?, has the heart or the head misled you before? What do you think about this head and heart issue?. I will love to read your thought below.

A good image is like a strong brand built on concrete foundation, a self-esteem is a behaviour,character and the way you view yourself. Self image is far beyond having the mindset but the ability to control and maintain.

Picture speaks a thousand words and they don't lie, any picture you paint has different meaning to different people. And it represent something, a perfect image is worth having. Many destroys their reputation while some hide their dirts just to maintain a twisted perfect image. For somewhat reason people can't spill blood just to protect this almighty oracle.

Have you ever questioned yourself or take a glance in the mirror to see if the real you will appear?. What kind of image do you withhold a vivid or fake? .
You can build unbreakable self image simply, it takes a year to build a world but one day to demolished it.

The 'self-image' is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self image and you change the personality and the behavior -Maxwell Maltz

Two Components Of Self Image

Your Appearance..

Over time impression has always been certified as a must have and golden, first impression is like an introduction or a wide open hand,which signifys your're very welcome. The way you present thy self is the way you will be regarded as. To build a perfect image for your self,dress neat,have a healthy personal hygeine and groom. Turn it into a lifestyle, do it for no, not to please people.

Your Personality/Differentiation

Personality is being different, it's a behaviour, a triat possessd that distinct from the other person.
Paint images that no one has painted before, the kind of behaviour your protray, the kind of words the comes out of your mouth matter, are they negative, dirty and headless?. How you address others counts and the attitude towards them.

Having a good image makes you confidence and can also bring respect and joy. You can develop a positive self image easily and quickly with the tips below:

1. Accept yourself when things go sideways don't let affect your whole life negatively, if you're disable, overweight, short,slim whatever learn to accept yourself ,love yourself or else no one will.

2. Learn to be happy at all time, do away with crooked smiles, replay it with genuine one, smiles makes you look beautiful.

3.Make friends with people who add value to you, compliment and support. Bad feeling affects the outer you, never one day criticize yourself don't focus on the wrong things in life.

4. Being yourself gives you inner joy and happiness. In the eyes of other you might be nothing but when you think and act positive, will begin to see your worth.

''The person we believe ourselves to be will always act in a manner consistent with our self-image''.-Brian Tracy

Do away with negative thoughts think positively about yourself. Identify and challenge any negative thoughts that you may have about yourself.

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We spend most of our precious times ignoring, disturbing yourself abstract entities and the corrupt world. Calculating endlessly, filling our innocent mindset with frustrated thought, having nightmare ,paint blank pictures that can change the world. Thousands are yelling, change to the world while others are neutral. For me i don't buy that idea. I find it unreasonable, am out here voraciously.

Esoterically we believe human are really specialized, in science and technology. And its advancement can parachute human to the next level where human sorrows will be completing eliminated.
Despite the trail nothing extra-positive has been accomplished in regards to rebranding the world into a modernize faultless being.
From my point of view i can't boldly proclaim that i have the capability of changing the world except the sphere that surrounds me. I know its far beyond yes i can, its should each man to his own soul,i change mine you change yours individually. But its so impossible to changes things when our heart is rock, i believe change starts deep inside then its explode to outer side.

“ I have never been especially impressed by the heroics of people convinced they are about to change the world. I am more awed by those who struggle to make one small difference.

-Ellen Goodman

This days we're only after the ourselves,family and few friends.The leaders don't consider the opinion of followers, they enact laws they never lived up to. They make weak prom
ises. And you're figuring out how you can change the world when you're supposed to be stacking up your papers to perfect height. I believe neutral fellow are those who add value to the world.

The world has been buried already,why not try and resurrect the one that the mirror reflects and that's you. Everything has already gone sideways.

The world’s leading climate scientists are issuing dire warnings on climate change. So sad human are the cause of this, now answer this simple question. Can you fix climate change? I know you can so go fix for me am too busy taking care of myself.

The media is s*xaulising nearly everything,soon they will s*xualise air.

95 percent of all species disappeared. Dinosaurs are no where to be found, In the great
Permian Extinction 230 million years ago. Where are they? Only God knows. Bring them back please Mr world changer.

Technology should completely cure disease and send it to extinction rather than treating then.
Bloodshed and political instability are increasing. Child mortality, Abuse and twisted version love.
If am to change anything, will only change the people around my. And that's what am after not the entire universe.

Am not going against the world orders but am trying to configure somewhat worthily. Many believe that can help change the world if we indulge our self in certain practices.
How many of us is even ready to sacrifice for other, every one seems greedy this days. When you think how hard you struggled for it. It's a waste of time, energy and resources trying to make the impossible possible so, stop trying to change the world, find a better mission.

Over to you.

Do you believe believe you can change the world? If yes then why do you think its possible? And what are you doing to help change the world..
Those like me who don't buy such idea, what are you doing to improve yourself and the world around you?...

Changes is inevitable and it's vital in our lives, it's might be complicated to embrace. Change is beyond picturesque it's a process.
We experience, seek change in our daily lives, at place of work and the circular world .Everybody is preaching change while others are working endless just to see change come.

Some changes comes when it's least expected. How to adapt to this ,many get stocks.
Maybe its happens that all the money you had is all gone. You know how its feels like, imagine if you're Bill Gate and find yourself in such predicament, how can you breath again, will you have a reason to live?.

Accept change.Life is so unpredictable, things will not always go the way you want, they bad luck but view it as an experience, maybe a wonderful one in that case therefore accept because no condition is permanent. They more you worry about the more you realize it's still the same. Accept change because it can turn out to be the best you ever had.
just don't just happen but it was meant to be that way. Accepting it,is the only way forward. Never see it as

Change the changeable, accept the unchangeable, and remove yourself from the unacceptable. -Denis Waitley "

Learn to view things from a different perspective. View life's as kaleidoscope. Life somethings teaches us things we ought to know,things we never importuned to learn. " Life is a game you live and you learn"

Learning from changes can makes us a better person. I remember days back when i had misunderstanding with my younger brother , we engage in a fight and along the line he collapsed. I was so scared, i rush him to the clinic. After than incident i find it hard to fight him anymore even when he step on my toes. I learned from that and now became a better person. Learn to love the person you're becoming.

The outcome of this change you're embracing is something that you must take into consideration.Is it foe the better?. If i do this what benefits will it bring to my life and others ,If its for the better then take a chance and its comes unfortunate embrace.

After the changes is accepted, thought about properly a step to it will do more better than hold on.
Talk to people about it, communication is the key. If you're married let your spouse know why this path need to be taken. Make them understand that this sudden shift will never lead to regrets.
Lastly, take them along, never try to force people to accept the new you. Get use to it.
Change is imminent! We must enthusiastically embrace it,manage it, and craft it to our
advantage.

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You probably heard of the holy trinity the body, mind and soul they control our lives and if one of them is negative our life turn crooked. In order for things to be on the wider and clear path the positive mindset must be activated.

Negative thoughts are one of the agent of failure, lost of self esteem, self hatred but cultivating the mindset of a positive thinker free us physically and spiritually from the darkness of life.
Negative thought hits everyone even those who teaches people how to get ride of it. But practice still makes perfect. In order to get rid of dark thoughts you have to embrace the light with the whole of your heart, mind, body and soul.

You can't just relax on your four armed chair and expect it to erase it self, you take a step, work your way out gradually you'll conquer.

Make Up Mind :

There are two ways to life and one is being ready to live, to face the reality and embrace it as its swings like a roller coaster, as it goes around and comes around. Before you go for any thing you must first think about it after that you make up your mind to win no matter the amount of stumbling blocks you meet on the way.

Being ready is all about being prepared. Never underestimate your strength, you can make it because other people have walked that path before.

Take A Step:

Making decision isn't all, you've made up your mind the next thing to do is TAKING A STEP.
This reminds me of a local TV game which i watched days back, the introductory soundtrack was
'Why don't you take a step' So take the necessary steps now or never.

The journey of a thousand miles begins with one step. "

You have successfully crossed the two stages now its time to start achieving the goals. Having positive thoughts is a process. It far beyond ordinary I Want To...

How to Think Positively.

1. Work on developing more positive thoughts about your self and people around you. Display positive emotions and attitude.

2. Cultivate Optimism.

Better is not enough expect that the best is yet to come ,never be pessimist be optimist .This how optimist act, they view bad or unfortunate events as isolated incidences that are outside of their control, while pessimists view such things as more common and often blame themselves.

Don't allow disappointments, difficulties and obstacles affect your moods and state of mind.
View that as nothing but a common occurrences that trigger your mindset to be rocky.

3.Avoid Negativity at all cost.

Avoid harbouring or involving in negative inner dialogues.Refuse negative thinking, it's a waste of time and its result to anything profitable.

4. Avoid Catastrophic Thinking

Catastrophizing is when you engage in imagining the worst possible outcome of something by
overreacting and letting your thoughts drive you to a highly uncertain scenarios.
Stop allowing the fear of the unknown to border you, stop worrying about the future, its bright already. Live and enjoy the present.

"I never worry about because its comes soon enough"

5. Surround yourself with positive people.
You can't be good when you keep bad company same applies to being a positive thinker. Permit me to quote Kanye West's lyric

"How can you faithful in a house full of wh*re"

Hey forget about it and pull out what is important to us here which is "Faithful and House Full Of".It entail that the kind of people around you can't effect the decisions you make in life. Interact with those that encourages your dreams and bring value to your life.

6. Learn from others.

Reading about others who overcame negativity and hardship in life can be of help.

7. Get yourself busy.

Boredomness at time provokes negative thoughts, if you are the indoor type look for something that will keep you busy. It might be anything. Try doing stuffs you haven't been doing before.

8. Set goals no matter how hard this might seem at first ,never give up keep yourself busy working on achieving them. Any goal accomplished gives you a reason to live and it will boost you ego.

Nothing in life is impossible to overcome, your negative thoughts aren't the worst thing in life, just believe that you can live a positive life. Never think about the negative words people throw at you because they got nothing on you.

Your Turn

Have you ever had negative thought , if yes how did you overcome them?.

More people are living the single life this days ever than before when they realize the partners they had earlier in life never stood a test of time , the single sphere seems impossible especially when the whole world have a common believe that relationship and marriage is a must. On the radio,tv, music everywhere love is one the most talked about.

Individual who choose to stay alone some times feel inferior because its seems like are left behind. When they see friends with females friends in hot romance or maybe in some certain occasion everybody arrives in twos and you're alone.

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