How will you feel when you wake up in the world that is void and you all alone, no assistant from someone. You hit and gather alone, picture that. It seems boring right?. Be there for other as people are/were present and  supportive when you needed them.

The universe can't without force that keeps it going, humans are helpers of one another. The main purpose while we were made in two's was to be there, assist each other. There is this aphorism my mother always say'' Life is mutualism. We eat each other to grow''.


Encourage one another: People are weak vessels. They feel reluctant, they give up easily when they are left alone, ignored and not cared for. They like this negative thinking of being unimportance.  They lack the active force that pushes some to do something but when someone is right next to them, empathizing and telling them words of encouragement it boost their mindset, lower the laziness and motivate them to vim more.


Empathy: Living is voluminous, life is convolution. Sometimes the emotions that we harbour drives us insane and the world gets heavy to carry. You just wish you're understood but things go sideways. Being there for those that are in such states of mind empathetically.Showing them there are not alone by giving a little sense of understanding.

Rejoice and weep together: Loving someone  implies  sharing all moment together weather it's good or bad. Rejoice with people when they tend to find joy and happiness, weep with them when part or whole of it is taken away.


Build Up One Another:  Somebody backed you up to become who you are today(probably your guardian), you cannot proclaim self made but a half because someone have helped you out during the race.  Someone taught you things you never knew.
Helping is inescapable, it reciprocation of what someone else has done to make you strong. Once in our life we do need someone to look up to, build up others dreams like you do yours. Give them right and reason to exist.

''Treat people as if they were what they out  to be,and you help them to become what they are capable of being'' _ Goethe. 

Recognize Others Existence and do something memorable,.....Do you know that most amazing thing that can happen to someone is being recognized they exist ?. And most of all is bring them to the spotlight. Some famous musicians, actresses  were all discovered and brought to the path of fame by someone like you. Do unto others what you do to yourself.

''A person is a person because he recognizes others as persons''_ Desmond Tutu.

Light Them Up:   Sometimes our light goes out, but is blown again into instant flame by an encounter with another human being. They comes a time when we loose thing we never thought we could . When we fall from the pinnacle we reach. Be there for them by replacing a  part. light, cheer them up, introduce them to new ways of climbing to that perfect high again.

A great man is by deeds not by birth, anyone one that wants to be great stands up for others, a strong man's strength is a waste if he don't use it to defend the weaker once. When we die what matters is not how large we lived but how many people we help to attain the height we obtained.

Be there for others....

Love isn't complete till its reciprocated genuinely, we all hear people airing it frequently. And even advised someone to applied this almighty law and principle of living but we come short of it. In this short article i will shared with you how you can effectively share love and balanced it equally.

Life is so simple and complicated, no matter how it must always be that way,why because love  has lost it value.

We are  not seldomly told to love our self first, we tend to focus on our self alone and intentional forget everyone Else's.
Love is :
- An intense feeling of affection and care towards another person,
- A profound and caring attraction towards someone.
Loving means:
- To have a strong affection for.
- To care deeply about, to be dedicated to.

Why Love Others?

You might start compromising, since you value yourself to an entend why love others? maybe some hurted you sometimes ago and you lock your heart , send the keys into extinctions. Showing love to people around is totally crap to you.

Love is reciprocal simply implies it's needs to be balance on both side, its not all about yourself alone but the manner you have for the next man shows how deeply you value yourself.
Love inequality is self cheating and greediness, to balance the equation you need to do unto others what you do to yourself.
Learn to be cheerful giver, help the needy by sharing some of your belonging.

“Doing nothing for others is the undoing of ourselves.”
― Horace Mann

There is one thing i have discovered, negative thoughts is a cause of hatred,people whose thinking is crooked will always display side effects towards others.

What does it means by Loving yourself?

Selfish persons are incapable of loving others, but they are not capable of loving themselves either. Since you were taught to cherish yourself , this idea of others will escape your memory only if you're so selfish. When you focus on yourself all you do is;

-Care about yourself feeling, protect yourself from any harmful object can come inform of intruder.  You seek happiness and embrace it with the whole of you.

-learn never to criticize or judge yourself even when you indulge in something inappropriate. You don't kill yourself trying to be perfect but accept it the way it's ,you do more to yourself.

This routine lifestyle keep eating the 'Others' world out of you because the sphere you think rotates around you and its all about you. You maybe feel like ' i am living life to it's fullest but it's so sad to say it, you are but only living half of it.

They say money don't make you rich, 50 percent love don't complete you, you might be happy but a peak not a whole.

“Those who are happiest are those who do the most for others.”
― Booker T. Washington, Up from Slavery.

Shift Your Thoughts


Never underestimate or underate people because no man is a desert on his own, the world and life will be boring without other people, have you ever wondered why everything was created in two's? male and female. For a purpose  the next person was created, to help  each other out when matter arises. Shift your negative thought today. If you are capable of shifting your thoughts , you can change the way you feel and respond to a situation of others.

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How to love Others

You can simply adopt the way you treat yourself, thats the best approach and the only effective way to true love for people.

Treat others with respect: The more happiness you bring to others the more happiers you feel.

“The truest form of love is how you behave toward someone, not how you feel about them.”
― Steve Hall

Put the needs of others before your's: If someone needs something and it happens you have it and it something you seek to, put the needs of others into consideration.
“The most sublime act is to set another before you.”
― William Blake
Treating people with kindness and gentleness.

There is no better way to love others as i said above thaN doing unto them the same thing you do to your self, don't eat and watch others starve, life isn't complicated but people forget to paint a vivid picture of her.

Sometimes it's hard to know if you are in love or lust the rate that young people are rushing into relationships is of the high. Some go into it for selfish reason while others just take it as fun but a lot of youngsters call it love, maybe they are right but I view it my way and realized it just a dream that might probably be gone when a new day is done. Lust is overshadowing love, of the truth I tell. It's really impossible to see a gunine lover this days. Lust is now termed as love at first sight, the first stage of love is usually attraction but only few end up in love.




Majority of the teenage, adults are either chasing each other with the target of having intimate act or for money. Even the young girl with wearing shots, exposing skin is not down for whatever than naira bill, no money no love.


A feeling of strong desire, especially of a sexual nature is lust,it could be an one-night stand or maybe a cheap undertaking traversing weeks. Actually, you may be sexually pulled in to people you don't even especially as; you don't need to have overwhelming emotions for somebody to get physical delight from them.
Many relationships that started with love has transformed into lust due to lack of control of emotions, emotion is mighty powerful.


Lust is usually pushed to men only as the most affected, women too are also not left out. They are additionally inclined to indicating their desire.
However their desire is more refined and controlled. It is bad to surmise that a woman who demonstrated to her desire is less docile than a fellow.



Genuine love isn't physical - it runs much deeper contrasted with which. Real Love is the relationship made in the middle of two individuals dependent upon appreciation, deference, commitment, uphold, and in addition enthusiastic fulfillment. It means nurturing much progressively about your accomplice contrasted with you have to do as to you. A couple enamored ordinarily uncover the same presence goals and cooperate to attain every last one of them. True cherish triumphs over all jumps and regularly incorporates self- offering. Unlike desire, love doesn't lessen with the entry of your chance. Rather, it develops stronger and much deeper.




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I was surfing the net yesterday and I stumbled upon a thread on the Nigerian popular forum Nairaland. Someone asked ask this question, Love Doesn't Cost A Thing (it's a lie). The question is not just a question but an answer too but does really cost a thing?  If am asked I'll reply yes , everything is not always right as it seems.
Some months ago i was battling the meaning of this same phrase, I never understood that it's the opposite so i decided to try and see if it really Priceless, I came to understand that that it's like a two side coin. Am going to analyze both side, the positive and negative.

Love Doesn't Cost A Thing ;What does it mean?.

It's an idiomatic expression which means it's priceless, it's a free gift, it's something every one can feel without having to pay an amount as large as one might have to pay to get back a king held for ransom. Even the common man can get love because it never expensive  to be loved. You love your friends, family and it's cost you nothing to have that feeling, it's just like the air we breath, you don't pay before you can breathe so it's doesn't cost a thing in that case, love don't cost a thing.

When Love Cost A Thing.

Yeah! like i said earlier, it's two side, love is a little bit expensive it's requires a lot of things like sacrificial giving. Loving someone requires actions and these actions stands inform of a prove that you really care. The creator of the universe Jehovah God is an example of love, he loves us and he showed it, he gave us only begotten son, Jesus to die for our sins. What is love without sacrificial giving, No one has a greater love than that which he or she would willingly die for their friend. ” Can you lay down your life for someone you love?. This just remind me of the soldiers that lost their lives every year just to protect others.

When you love someone so much you care about them, you will be pushed to go extra mile just to see the person happy. It's natural, you just can't help it. You sacrifice things like your time and money.


#1.Time: Spending time with your partner is a huge and compulsion. Your abandon everything else just to be with your lover just to keep your relationship alive and refreshing.


#2.Money: Love makes you sacrifice even your hard earned money, money can't buy love but money spices up the relationship “Love to be real, it must cost—it must hurt—it must empty us of self.” .


Relationship whose focus is on what they will gain in return is not classified as love , True love begins when nothing is looked for in return. The cost of love is not as important as the value.