When I see couple sticking around like they truly a snake with two heads, some of them have been wedded for as 40 years and sentiment even now kicking , I think about how they figure out how to make it, a companion of mine let me know its exhausting been bound and steadfast to one individual just however whenever I see as far back as anyone can remember termed couple together, the adoration and  mind I sense lets me know that it's exhausting as my companion said.


I come to contemplate how they bargain, I utilized myself as an illustration, through the years, from elementary school to secondary school, now am here, I Can't truly tell what number of young ladies I have been with, we made a guarantee to each other that we'll keep going everlastingly however I simply don't know why you those dreams never delivered. Possibly this is in light of the fact that we are youthful or is the mainstream maxim 'Nothing Last Forever'  demonstrating its genuine.

As life goes on I began to acknowledge more, I understood that the ones we had in the past were simply desire and fascination, created by demonstration of companion force. I know developed men and ladies relationship too don't last yet some do. So I examined the ones that do survive whatever is left of time and I understood some filthy mystery that makes it keep going.


1. They consistently find new imparted engages. Couples will stay closer provided that they have imparted hobbies. This is all the stronger provided that they can find new imparted engages throughout the years. Getting stayed together in the same profound trench is not a formula for a joyful relationship. If it is another interest or another imparted dream of a business wander, this will serve to keep a couple's relationship new, youthful also sound.

2. They know how to contend. Indeed, the happiest couples will contend. Be that as it may in a solid relationship, victory is not characterized by winning a contention or getting one's own path, yet from knowing how to talk about contrasts completely and genuinely. Assuming that you continually put your accomplice down when you differ and at the finish of an contention, you don't feel stronger and more associated than you did before you began, then the relationship is continuously disintegrated one bit at a time. To have an auspicious relationship couples will know how to contend, they might differ, however they close up comprehension one another better and regarding their distinctions.

3. They are savvy to every others evolving needs and goals. We all change over time and the best couples appear to be savvy to how their accomplice has adapted and don't barely expect them to be the same as they were when they first met. They require significant investment to comprehend their accomplice in the present time and their trusts and anticipates the future.

4. They acknowledge the substances of getting more advanced in years. We all develop more advanced in years and a couple in a solid relationship will guarantee that they are there for one another. They will take consideration of each other as they manage the physical tests of maturing and sentiments of mortality . They impart their musings on what lies ahead and take solace from realizing that their accomplice will be there to uphold them regardless of what happens.

5. They remain physically joined. You are never excessively old to hold hands, kiss or nestle or engage in sexual relations and couples who do this all through their relationship are less averse to stay associated. Having a physical and exotic relationship together all through life does appear to be a key fixing to an auspicious enduring. relationship.

Lastly I think they have the fear of God in them, and also as time changes, it's elevates their minds into maturity. Everyday is like a discovering to them,  they discover they are perfect match.

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Dreams are dreams but some never make it to reality while a couple that is backup with actions do. Am in love and my better half is a thousand mile away, we call, we chat, we do everything possible to keep us connected and raise the flames high. Long distance Relationships don't just work out despite the amount of firewood you added to increase the inflammation but the flame tend to drop.
Am not in anyway saying long distance relationship don't work out. I was a practitioner some years back it worked it was amazing and fun but it never lasted.

See: How to make long distance relationship work


Below are few reasons  why LDR is doomed.

1. It requires too much:
Too much of everything is a burden,its creeps all of you out, sucks you energy like a toddler suckling, all day and night just cant get enough of the breast milk.
LDR requires too much of commitment .


2. Not Realistic:
Relationships involves two individual but LDR makes you loose touch with reality. The only tool you employ is communications which isn't real, words sometimes are merely words. Your chat buddy yea i call it chat buddy because it not realer than your phone screen ,all you do is chat.



3. Its Not Trustworthy:
Your so called lover of your life or so found love might be flipping other females like it was 2012 when they predicted that the world will end. When you are missing him his missing someone else or probably in Wonderland were no male exist except females so he can easily get what you cant offer.
But in the real life dating you can pay them a surprise visit or monitor them.  The unfaithfulness spirit wont come closer easily because you can get caught pants down. But in circumstance where all you get is text messages,email,and too much Skype trust wont be that fat.


You Are Frustrated:
Admit it or you leave, you are living in the past you are lost, stop riding on your magical mystery ride get a life. Every night is the same as yesterday, everything is still the same. You get bored,cold and the flame around your bed keep complaining. All you get is words and wishes and they never come through..


No Future:
She is Nigeria and you are overseas, you can see the equation ain't balance even if you try to. You have a nice job and a whole bunch of real things can you give them up just to for love? Nah. No one will even if you risk it all it doesn't guarantee that she or he will be what you expected.


As the going keep going communication will start breaking, the one medium that unite you and your so found love bird is faulty. What were you expecting? you thought you could paint a vivid picture with water?.Its like pouring water on a duck back so my suggestion is that don't waste your little energy and time on something that isn't realer than the TV screen.


Over to you

Are you a victim or in a LDR i cant say nothing but a word because it's enough for the wise I Wish You The Best When it sucks remember i warned.