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“So it's not gonna be easy. It's going to be really hard; we're gonna have to work at this everyday, but I want to do that because I want you. I want all of you, forever, everyday. You and me... everyday.”
― Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook |
A couple of days ago I got a mail from a good friend of mine who happened to be one of my favourite reader,he informed me about his upcoming wedding and his love for my writings and at the end of his mail he added"
Do your mental have some tips for me as am about to tire the knot?. It's a amazing things to finally wake up to the girl of your Dreams laying next to you but the most beautiful thing is making it last a lifetime. Newly wedded couple don't have to scared of the global change that's currently affecting dating and marriage scenes . This era a very high percent of newly marriages hardly stand a test of time. According to statistics 41-50 percent of first marriages fail,meaning a huge number last and anyone can be among the successful percentage. (
8 Most Common Reasons Why Marriages Fail)Marriage isn't outdated, it's a Holy Matrimony that will forever no amount of modernization can erupts it.
Few Things Newly-weds Need to Have in Back of Their minds.
1.Marriages are complicated. It could be run smoothly without disruption only if credibility and total commitment backed-up with patience and work (the power to settle or deal with conflict) Is employed.
2.Your Partner might Change ,the burning flame might reduce. And it's all will be left for you to revive it. All healthy and happy marriage face this, they fall in and out of love despite that don't don't use as a medium to take a break but add more Charcoal or Gasoline too it.
3.Without Hard-Work nothing grows only weeds.What I mean in essence is no matter what happens settle it and don't looking for help from strangers or your mothers.
4.Trust is equivalent to air and the most important to have in and relationship.
5.Learn to Accept your partner the way he/she is. Change is a permanent thing but don't expect people to change just to make a wish. Marrying your partner is and indication that you've accepted all his/flaws and weakness.
6.When you're wrong Learn to apologize sincerely. Like I said described in the article. Love Others, human makes mistake ,it's inevitable, at time we man could be boring. Always act matured and admit it and pay the price it's takes for peace to rain.
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7.The Power of touch : Never underestimate the power of physical tough in any marriage, it's has the power to transmit emotions and also strengthen the relationship. It's has a positive energies of improving your health and also any powerful means of communication. Tough is a language of love, it's trigger your hormones and makes you feel secured.
Read:
5 Secrets to a Successful Long-Term Relationship or Marriage
8.Resolve Conflicts Effectively. Conflict is one those strangers you can't avoid to welcome. It's inevitable but could be worked through effectively. The problem most people has is the ability of resolving them as soon as its pave it way in. Instead of laying blames listen to your partner and compromise with them.
- Make Spirituality Top Priority.
- Avoid Abuses.
- Make Communication your top Priority too.
- Be a Good listener too
- Learn to disagree and agree.
- Don't try to change your spouse or make your spouse change for you.
- Learn to appreciate your partner, always.
- Learn to love your self and take care.
- Respect your spouse.
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness, And let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but make not a bond of love: Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls. Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup. Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf. Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone, Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music. Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping. For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts. And stand together, yet not too near together: For the pillars of the temple stand apart, And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.”
― Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
Adjusting to marriage life too could be overwhelming moment but you could
adjust to marriage as a learning experience Marriage is WORK Many nearly wedded couple fail to notice this. Being crazy in love don't grantee everlasting but growing in love by increasing the level of your awareness. (learning how to manage a home ,taking care of each and making a preparation for the babies. ).
Marriage isn't a bed of roses, there's a fine line between boyfriend and Married individuals.