Long Distance Relationships:Don't Even Try
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Am not in anyway saying long distance relationship don't work out. I was a practitioner some years back it worked it was amazing and fun but it never lasted.
See: How to make long distance relationship work
Below are few reasons why LDR is doomed.
1. It requires too much:
Too much of everything is a burden,its creeps all of you out, sucks you energy like a toddler suckling, all day and night just cant get enough of the breast milk.
LDR requires too much of commitment .
2. Not Realistic:
Relationships involves two individual but LDR makes you loose touch with reality. The only tool you employ is communications which isn't real, words sometimes are merely words. Your chat buddy yea i call it chat buddy because it not realer than your phone screen ,all you do is chat.
3. Its Not Trustworthy:
Your so called lover of your life or so found love might be flipping other females like it was 2012 when they predicted that the world will end. When you are missing him his missing someone else or probably in Wonderland were no male exist except females so he can easily get what you cant offer.
But in the real life dating you can pay them a surprise visit or monitor them. The unfaithfulness spirit wont come closer easily because you can get caught pants down. But in circumstance where all you get is text messages,email,and too much Skype trust wont be that fat.
You Are Frustrated:
Admit it or you leave, you are living in the past you are lost, stop riding on your magical mystery ride get a life. Every night is the same as yesterday, everything is still the same. You get bored,cold and the flame around your bed keep complaining. All you get is words and wishes and they never come through..
No Future:
She is Nigeria and you are overseas, you can see the equation ain't balance even if you try to. You have a nice job and a whole bunch of real things can you give them up just to for love? Nah. No one will even if you risk it all it doesn't guarantee that she or he will be what you expected.
As the going keep going communication will start breaking, the one medium that unite you and your so found love bird is faulty. What were you expecting? you thought you could paint a vivid picture with water?.Its like pouring water on a duck back so my suggestion is that don't waste your little energy and time on something that isn't realer than the TV screen.
Over to you
Are you a victim or in a LDR i cant say nothing but a word because it's enough for the wise I Wish You The Best When it sucks remember i warned.
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For me,its a waste of time because no matter how hard you try to keep the relationship to work#it will crash someday....how much can you trust a lady or your guy?
ReplyDeleteYou are on point sir.
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